The holiday is only days away, a time that’s supposed to be filled with laughter, joy, and happiness. But, sadly, the inevitable happened – getting separated from your spouse. Thinking about the coming holiday, you might feel a rush of anxiety and stress thinking of how it will go.
You don’t need to worry. Here are some incredible tips that will help your family navigate this holiday without inducing stress. Not forgetting, you will be helping your kids adjust smoothly to the new normal.
1. Make it about the kids
Your business with your ex is over. This is a new business that is about your kids. Your aim should be to give them the best environment to grow in. If that entails your kids spending time together during this coming holiday, then why not.
When you help your kid adjust and still get to connect with family, it creates a positive experience. You will be making memories they will cherish in the long run, not chaos and trauma.
2. Plan, Plan, Plan
That is where you involved your ex. Cause without a doubt, you will be running into him most of the time. All you have to do is discuss with your ex how time will be spent during the holiday. A parental plan encourages both parties to adapt to the new changes in time and schedules.
Without a plan, you’re planning to fail. Activities such as nap time have to be consistent, and your kid might also need some time with friends. You can also imagine possible interactions with your ex, and come up with situation reactions.
3. Be flexible
It’s important to plan, and also good to be fluid. This will help you to prepare for any situation, even when they are unexpected. Sometimes, it’s not about the situation that matters, but how you react to the situation.
It could be that your in-laws were in town and decided to drop in, or perhaps your kid got sick. Goodwill gestures will help you navigate this process smoothly, including your kids.
4. Work past your bad feelings
Sometimes it might prove difficult to let go of the past. But you need to understand that this is a new relationship where you protect your kid’s best interest. By seeing your ex as nothing but a business partner, you will scale through the holiday without raining hell on earth.
Sometimes your kids might spend more time with your ex’s family, which you can consider discussing with a counselor. But considering the needs of your kids, you might not even bother. If you’re seeking more help or guidance regarding co-parenting, feel free to call, or fill our contact form to begin.